Infidelity & Erotic Recovery

Relationship/Sex Therapy
Relationship/Sex Therapy

Infidelity/
Erotic Recovery

Infidelity/Erotic Recovery is treated in phases.
Every couple that finds themselves in this place has a unique circumstance and it’s a different process for each couple.

  • Relationship/Sex Therapy

    Phase 1 - Crisis/Discovery

    - Establish Safety
    - Stabilize family / relationship
    - Normalize trauma
    - Make an agreement to make NO - DECISIONS for at least 6 months
    - Close exit(s) for a finite period
    - Begin to process previous unhealed trauma

  • Relationship/Sex Therapy

    Phase Two - Renegotiate/Renew

    - Tell the story of the infidelity
    - Dialogue about the MEANING of the infidelity
    - Figure out what it meant for the person that reached outside of the partnership/marriage
    - Figure out what it meant for the person that was betrayed
    - Figure out what it meant about YOUR partnership/marriage

  • Phase Three - Re-Evaluate

    - Assess for permanence
    - Create a NEW VISION for the relationship
    - Grieve the old meaning
    - Acknowledge fluidity
    - Integrate meaning of the infidelity w/ self, other, US
    - What did you BOTH learn from the infidelity

  • Relationship/Sex Therapy

    Phase Four - Erotic Recovery/Sex Therapy

    - Erotic Recovery
    - Re-evalute relationship to your sexual selves/sexuality
    - Define needs for your new relationship
    - Pleasure Constellation Map
    - Erotic Blueprints
    - Erotic Recovery Protocol